This week marks another pregnancy milestone. This week we have entered the third trimester, and I seem to have developed a beautifully round belly to match! I’ve had a fantastic second trimester in which I’ve felt energised, healthy and happy, so I feel in great shape for entering this next faze.
The first trimester was plagued with the usual pregnancy sickness, mine didn’t do me the courtesy of being just ‘morning’ sickness and I suffered all day every day for quite some time. It did have its comedy value moments such as projectile vomiting over Rob while riding on the back of a scooter, and hiding under the duvet to escape smells from the fridge, which was actually thoroughly clean, but my maternal olfactory system seemed convinced there was some sort of rotting corpse in there!
I was very very happy when the sickness subsided and I was able to expand my culinary repertoire beyond ritz biscuits and pieces of toast. But, looking back over those months I feel like they did serve to prepare me mentally in some way for the task in hand… creating a human! Which becomes an all consuming journey of constant change and development filled with excitement and surprises. When the pregnancy sickness started I didn’t believe I could possibly make it through 3-4 months of nausea and vomiting. Being deprived of the daily pleasure of tasty food and a body that feels healthy is no fun at all. But amazingly I did make it through, with the ever present support of my fiancée who got in his fair share of practice at cleaning up vomit which I’m sure might come in handy in a few months time! But somehow we made it, there is a strength and satisfaction at coming through something so challenging.
Pregnancy so far has taught me some valuable lessons.
1. All things do pass. When the sickness started I felt like I had been given a life sentence.… Very dramatic I know but I just couldn’t imagine feeling better again as I felt so poorly and I couldn’t imagine staying so sick for months to come either, I began counting down the days to when the nausea might pass. Miraculously, the time and the sickness did pass, and looking back now I actually laugh at how ridiculous things were. It’s made me realise that no matter how tough things sometimes get, they do pass and one day will be just a memory. I’m keeping this lesson in mind for the potential challenges of labour and sleep deprivation too!
2. I am Strong. Carrying around this lovely extra bundle does make me move a little slower and I’m less inclined to run for the bus these days. But, my body has it under control, although the proportions of my body are changing with my ever expanding baby and other things like my blood volume increasing to support her, its so far amazed me just how strong my body is to keep up with these extra demands. As well as being physically strong, so is our mindset. Since becoming pregnant we’ve moved countries, found new jobs, got a new car and set up a new home. Its amazing what you can achieve when you need to and you have a baby motivating you.
3. Nature knows what its doing. For me, one of the most incredible things about pregnancy is that all of these unbelievable things happen, like the babies heart somehow starts beating and I feel movements as she grows bigger and stronger. My muscles, bones, skin and internal organs and also my mind and emotions rearrange themselves to make space for our little hitch-hiker. And somehow, all of this happens without me even having to think about it. Nature takes over and knows exactly what to do. Its amazing to me that all of this happens without me having to plan anything, or worry about what to do next. In actual fact the best thing I can do is to relax and enjoy the journey. Thats kind of another life lesson I’ve learnt recently… It’s best not to over think things and just go with the flow.
Speaking of going with the flow, since coming back to the UK I’ve fully immersed myself into the pregnancy and birthing world… and what a wonderful world it is. From hypnobirthing to pregnancy yoga there is so much on offer to support people as they go on this journey towards parenthood. The overall message I keep picking up is to do whatever you can to relax and trust your body and baby to complete this amazing process.
Well, we have another three months to go, and part of me feels like its going to fly by and we still need to do x, y and z before she’s here. But another part of me can’t wait for the time to pass and to finally be able to meet our little girl. For now though I’m going to enjoy my last three months of this pregnancy I’ve had a strong desire to take extra care myself. Looking after myself is looking after my baby and that right now feels like the most important thing. This is another example of nature knowing what its doing, its given me the instinct to take care of my baby right from the beginning.